Take them on a drive

 Are you thinking of getting married?

Before you swap rings sit in the passenger’s seat. In the driver’s seat is your potential spouse. The pedestrians don’t know their name. The other driver can’t hear what your partner says. Sitting above all, nobody will see their behaviour. Except for you.

Watch the way they treat pedestrians.

Do they patiently wait for them to cross? Or do they inch forward while they’re still on the crossing, making them hurry, irritated by their existence.

Watch what happens when someone cuts them off.

Do they laugh at it? Or does their entire body stiffen, jaw tighten, hands white on the wheel, saying what they will do to that driver.

Do they overtake constantly, not because they are in a hurry, but because being behind someone is unacceptable? 

Do they speed up to stop someone passing?

What happens when the traffic is slow? A stop-go person says stop. Do they accept it, enjoy the view,  the radio or grab the steering wheel, frustrated at stopping.

That is your unique view of the future. Imagine living with this person when thing go wrong. How will they behave?

Your life together will involve other people. Most of these other people are not perfect. They are not always aware of your carefully laid-out plans. A trip in a car will give you a view of your future. You can either go forward take it or take the exit lane.